You choose the life you want to live, and if it is unachievable now, you work to reach all those dreams and goals anyway. If you don’t like your life, then you should change it. Change is good, it helps us grow. We were not born to stand still.
Your career plays a major role in the life you live, so needless to say, you shouldn’t waste your time doing things you don’t like. You spend 40 hours a week surrounded by the same people, taking directions from the same managers and doing the same thing 5 days a week until you take vacation, which you may not even do if you’re more of a workaholic than others [whether by choice or too much overtime].
I’ve worked jobs I was terrible at (I still have night terrors from my waitressing days spilling pasta and drinks on most guests), I’ve worked when I was miserable on the job (cue weird bosses and horrible hours), but if I didn’t enjoy it, it did not last long because I would not waste my time doing something that made me feel any less. When I was unhappy and finding less and less pleasure in my every day, I opened myself up to new opportunities instead of letting it ruin my quality of life.
I actually started college as a Psychology major, but after a semester I realized that wasn’t what made me happy, as much as I did enjoy the things I learned. I couldn’t do it for a living though, and so I swapped that for a minor and majored in Writing Arts. Writing is what I love, and I wasn’t even completely sure it was the career path I wanted. It was direction though, and I took other courses and certification classes along my way to boost my resume. More importantly, I kept myself open to new possibilities, took on new jobs out of my comfort zone, and finally got myself to a point where I enjoy my every day.
This will never happen to you, though, if you dont make changes. Change is hard, and I’m the first to have your back when you say change sucks, but you have to do it anyway. You have to do hard things, otherwise you only settle for what’s easy, whether it’s 4 years of education you hate because you think it’s too late, a mind-numbing job that stresses you out but you don’t want to go through the daunting process of starting somewhere new, or maybe you just can’t bare the goodbye to some long-standing friendships you no longer enjoy…. You have to change, or it won’t ever get any better.
Things probably could have been easier at times when I think back over the choices I’ve made to get to where I am today, but I continue to look forward and do what I need to make myself happy. Regret can’t do anything. We cannot live in fear of change when we were born to grow.