I wonder if this happens to you:
You watch a movie for the first time and you hate it…then months later you watch it again and end up loving it…
…so…yeah maybe it’s just me….I can be very slow…
What I don’t like mostly -those first moments of not liking the movie- is mostly a decision characters have made or maybe how the story line ended.
I can’t relate and it bothers me, I end up thinking: I would have done it differently.
If you cannot relate in any way with the characters or story line than there is a chance you won’t connect with the movie.
Then it brought me to think about this:
My sisters and I are 10 years apart, and one of them was asking advice on how she should react when the other takes her stuff, or if they start fighting,…I could give her advice on what I believe is the right thing to do…
The problem is: I never had to fight with a sister!
I mean I used to watch them after school but not actually had anything relating to borrowing clothes, taking stuff without asking, basic sisterly fights!
The age gap was just too wide…by the time they were old enough to play with dolls, I gave them all of mine, I have just always been the big sister ^.^
…, I then realized I could not advise her based on experience since I have had none.
I do have knowledge on how it could be resolved based on my own experiences.
When we ask others for advice, ask yourself: Have they gone through a similar situation? are they a good support? a good influence?
We can listen to their response and then choose to apply it in our life or not. Listen in the way to figure out what can be done or even just to have someone to hear you.
If you can also relate with someone, it also brings relief; to have a companion during difficult times, or someone that can be a second opinion, a guide.
I assist both my sisters, seeing both their side, and try to find ways we can all get along.
You can choose.
Movies will always be stories, fiction or real, but we have our own story, if you cannot relate to anyone, relate with yourself, you know yourself best.
Now when watching movies, I keep an open mind, to recognize that these characters are all different:
How they were raised, Troubles they’ve faced, Ways they deal with their issues, How their parents treated them, influences around them… and in opening myself to that realization has helped me to appreciate and respect the different views we all have.
I hope we can all help each other no matter those differences.
Light the way instead of burning the path.