I was watching the series “Hawthorne”, episode “Hidden truths” and really admired the advice Christina (the mother) gave to her daughter, she caught her and her boyfriend you know what! and of course she was pissed, and did not even want to say a word to her. But in the end, she told her this:
“You have a real power now and you’ve got to respect it and you’ve got to respect him the same way you want him to respect you. I know he cares about you a lot, but here’s the thing, the people who cares about us the most have the most power to hurt us.Your body is your temple, I want you to take care of it and I always want you to respect it because that is what a woman does.”
We all know that once it starts, it is not easily stopped, so the best advice would be this. Always respect your body and fight for it, do not let any man rush you into anything you are not sure about.
And man same with you do not let any woman rush you
I have once witnessed a girl in high school making fun of a guy that never did it, he got pressured and went and did it for all the wrong reasons.
This step is a big one, if you are not sure of something, you can always wait and think about it. You have time, whether it is your first time or not. If whoever is pressuring you makes fun of you, that is totally fine, they are not you, and only you can make that decision. And if your partner or anyone pressures you then they are not respecting your choice, not respecting you, so are they really the right person with who you want to make that step with?
God wants us to wait until marriage, because He wants us to be committed, to stay together, to respect each other.
If you are with someone that wants you to give yourself to them when you want to wait, want to get married, and they cannot respect your decision, then they are not right for you, plain simple.